Archive for February, 2014

What to do when you feel angry

STOP! Pause, take a breath, don’t react automatically  Walk away – you can come back and talk later      Ask yourself: What am I reacting to?  What is it that’s really pushing my buttons here?  Am I getting things out of proportion?  How important is this really?  How important will […]

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Anger Responses

  Anger is a result of thinking that we have been unfairly treated or disrespected, or that others have broken or fallen short of our rules, standards or expectations, and we won’t stand for it. Thinking this way leads us to feel angry, which stimulates the body’s adrenaline response which is our body’s way of […]

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When a relationship is not healthy

It is important to work towards building healthy relationships. It is equally important to identify if a relationship is not healthy and abusive. Generally people think in terms of abuse as involving physical actions. It is not only limited to the physical; emotional abuse can be just as devastating. Physical abuse is serious and is […]

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Mindfulness

Mindful awareness greatly enhances the joys of daily life. In practice even the smallest of things suddenly become captivating again. There are two MODES of the mind 1)    DOING MODE 2)    BEING MODE The doing mode is truly brilliant at automating our life using habits. We do so much automatic thinking, working, eating, driving without […]

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Bereavement

J. William Worden, professor of psychology at Harvard Medical School, developed a model that he calls the “Tasks of Mourning” (1991). His premise is that grief is work. It requires commitment and active participation on the part of the person who is grieving, and, these authors would add, on the part of those who wish […]

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The Five Stages of Grieving

The different stages of grieving are universal and experienced by people from all walks of life. Mourning is a response to the loss of a valued being, human or animal. Elisabeth Kubler- Ross ( 1969) wrote about the five stages of grieving. In grief we spend different lengths of time working through each step. Grieving […]

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Anxiety Self Help Questions

Questions to ask yourself What are the facts for my worry ? What is the evidence for this thought being true ? Has this been true in the past ? What are the chances of this happening, or this being true ? What is the worst thing that could happen ? Why is that the […]

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Couples Counselling

Couples Counselling, previously known as marriage guidance, addresses the problems arising from adult sexual or intimate relationships. The relationship, rather than the two individuals, is the ‘client’. Our very closest relationship: a marriage; co-habitation or civil partnership, is based on intimacy and trust. When it stops working we are affected deeply and our health and […]

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Pre-nuptial Counselling

Pre-nuptial counselling allows a couple to consider their preferred way of being together before they hit a crisis. It is a way for them to contemplate their ‘contract’ of being together and how they might prepare themselves if the relationship gets strained –as it inevitably will do. Although it might seem out of context with […]

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